of manwhores and men

Face it, we like looking at bulging biceps and six-pack abs and drool over them. But do you imagine yourself getting into a long-term relationship with such men?

It's easy to tell whether a guy is for fun or for keeps; however, we like to fool ourselves at times and confuse one for the other. Sometimes we choose to switch off our common sense and rely on pure luck to bag a guy who looks like Brad Pitt but thinks like Shakespeare.

Women of the millennium, let us not be slaves to our own little fairy tales inside our heads. We were born way beyond the Elizabethan era and we're not boxed in the same stereotype that those women were. We can choose to either be happy with our decisions or be miserable with decisions other people make for us.

A guy who struts his stuff in front of you expecting for you to swoon is the same guy who wants to get in your pants. Think twice if you really want to be "fooled" by him, or say "No, thank you" and walk away with your dignity intact.

All I'm saying is that you have a choice. If you want to like him, it's not a crime. If you want to go out with him, be my guest!:) If you want to take a step further and sleep with him, then that's your prerogative. Just be responsible for the consequences that would eventually unfold.

If you wake up next to him and dream that one day you'll be having kids with him, honey, you're in the wrong path. Do not confuse lust for love... If you want to stay sane, then do it with good sense. You know that he's not going to promise you the stars or his fidelity, so stop dreaming and just enjoy his company. It may not last for long, but at least you held your own and didn't look pathetic. He might even consider staying if you show your confident side.;)

A guy hates a clingy woman. The more you stalk him and call him your "boyfriend," the more he would want to jump off the ship. Don't wait for him to say something about your relationship, because that's never gonna happen. I'm sorry to burst anybody's bubble, but it is the truth.

I'm not being cynical about guys. I love them, but I'm sure they agree with what I'm saying. They don't meet girls just so they can find someone to marry. They don't want to fast forward their lives from being a bachelor to being the man of the house. They like taking their time getting to know a lot of women because they like being with them. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. So I think women should also think the same as men do in that aspect.

We're not pressured to get married right away. We have our own jobs and we can support ourselves. It's not like we're still living in the middle ages when the women need to bear many children so they can help with the house chores. Our time is different now, so our ideas on love or commitment should be modified to fit our current situation.

You're lucky if a guy is ready to be in a serious relationship with you. A guy's full commitment is like holding the holy grail. Drop it and you lose it forever... So don't be so careless with feelings either. If the boy toy turns out to be a keeper, then good for you! Just be careful not too hold on too tight or too loose. Be grateful, but not too eager.;)

I'm sure that when you relax and let the journey take its course, it will lead you to where you want it to be. It's not fair that you become so stressed with finding the right person and not being able to notice the people who want to be with you. You won't find a perfect person, I can tell you that. But it's never too late to stop and smell the testosterone around you. Stop getting so worked up in finding a future husband. Enjoy the view and take it all in. You might miss it when you finally reach your destination.;)